Wednesday, February 20, 2008
A Strong Will is Good ... A Strong Will is Good
My new mantra. I wanted a daughter with a strong will. I wanted a kid who wouldn't be too passive. I sure as shoot got what I wanted (carefull what you wish for mommas). I try to reframe the frustrations but somehow it's a lot easier to do it (reframe) when I am sitting here at the computer and Lucy is at daycare. She is one powerful two-year-old. At this age/stage she certainly doesn't always use her power for good. My beautiful girl often enters a room swinging. OH woe to the other children who happen to be walking toward anything she perceives to be hers (the swimming pool, the mall ...). It's not all fun. I find myself so frustrated so many times a day. I am afraid. I fear that my rational thoughts (its just a stage, it's just a stage) will be wrong and my irrational fears (she's evil) will turn out to be true.
It's not easy when even positive encouragement (oh Lucy I loved how you shared your mall, or Lucy good job keeping your hands to yourself) often serves only to remind her that she could be hitting or screaming.
OH the hard side of parenting.
It will get better right????